Love is not Obligation
Love. Family. Relationship. Obligations. People got all this shit twisted. Love of any kind does not mean you are obligated to anything. You can DO, HELP, and SHARE all out of love, but there comes a time when doing these things excessively are detrimental to a person's growth. If someone dug themselves a hole and plopped their behind in it, no matter how much I love you, I am NOT obligated to get yo ass out----especially if this same lesson has hit you full throttle over the head over and over again. No one should be an enabler---not to family or friends. You can assist, but don't shoot the shot for them. It creates a lack of responsibility and an unmindfulness of consequences. Let's not forget about their stress becoming your stress. We all have enough stress of our own and boundaries should be set.
I am not saying don't love and don't help. I am saying love and be supportive in a way that is healthy for you and the other person.
"We cripple people who are capable of walking because we choose to carry them"